My oldest son is recovering from back surgery. My daughter is anxious about not meeting up with us in heaven after we die. My youngest son is awaiting anxiously to hear about his medical school applications and my middle son is stressing about the amount of school work on his plate. I admit that enmeshing myself in my children’s emotions is a huge problem of mine.

I did myself a great favour by reading Joe Rich’s book: Parenting: The Long Journey. It went a “long” way in helping me put my parental anxiety in perspective. With the abundance of parenting books out there I pick and choose what I read carefully. My selection criterion is simple. To the best of my knowledge does this author walk their talk? An author’s truth to self means everything. Having known Joe for some 20 years, I have the advantage of a little inside information. I have seen his parenting first hand and listened to him speak on numerous occasions. As a regular on CTV’s Cityline, many have had the privilege of hearing him. He’s warm, funny, caring and a great parent, the perfect person in my opinion to write a parenting book.

If I was forced to summarize Joe Rich’s book in one sentence, it would be this: It is a book about perspectives. Regardless of your personal parenting beliefs or styles, this book will feel illuminating. Joe shows us how to focus on what we are doing right, not wrong. I don’t think I’m alone in being guilty of doing the exact opposite! He sees parents as experts and places the power to successful parenting in the hands of parents. The gem of Joe’s book is in providing us with wonderful examples of how to parent our children with love, firmness and respect. He tells us to aim for “better” and not “perfect.” I love that. Aiming for perfect has always got me into trouble and now I know why!

The greatest mind-altering moment for me in this book was Joe’s discussion about thinking “long.” Knowing what you bring from the past to your present approach to parenting is not only useful but can really take your parenting to a new level. Sometimes when we are stuck, this is exactly what we need to do. Looking “long” into the future has really helped me find balance. I realized for the first time how totally involved I become in every anxious moment of parenting. With four children, these moments quickly add up to constant time. Looking ahead and realizing that this too shall pass, allows me to see the woods and to take some real breaths. Thank you Joe!

Every great parenting book needs to include practical suggestions and this book does not disappoint.  From putting a jacket on a toddler, to yelling, financial planning, computer issues and even keeping romance alive, Joe discusses issues that are relevant to parents. If you want to grow as a person and a parent, read this book!

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Marsha Jacobson is author of "Boom... Boom... Boom...: A Story to Raise Your Child's Emotional Intelligence". She is a regular contributor of mychildfeels.com and you can visit her website at marshajacobson.com.