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		<title>Guest Blog: Helping Young Children Who Speak Different Languages Become Friends</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Children from different home languages are the fastest growing segment of the preschool population right now across the United States.  Chances are most English-speaking children will meet children who speak other languages in their neighborhoods, schools and childcare.  We can all benefit from fostering attitudes of tolerance and friendship.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.mychildfeels.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/20100102-j0439573.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-645" title="20100102-j0439573" src="http://www.mychildfeels.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/20100102-j0439573-199x300.jpg" alt="" width="199" height="300" /></a><em>It gives me great pleasure to welcome <a href="http://languagecastle.com/Language_Castle/Language_Castle.html">Karen Nemeth</a> to <a href="http://www.mychildfeels.com">mychildfeels.com</a>.  I met Karen over Twitter (follow her <a href="http://www.twitter.com/KarenNemethEdM">@KarenNemethEdM</a>) and she was kind enough to write a guest blog. </em></p>
<p><em>In the multicultural societies of North America, tolerance and kindness towards others begins in the cradle. Karen has some wonderful and helpful suggestions on how to create an environment conducive to these attributes. Karen is the author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Many-Languages-One-Classroom-Teaching/dp/0876590873/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1262720497&amp;sr=8-1">&#8220;Many Languages, One Classroom: Teaching Dual and English Language Learners&#8221;</a> (2009) and has her Masters degree in education. Thanks Karen for providing us with your great perspective. &#8211; Marsha</em></p>
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<p>Children from different home languages are the fastest growing segment of the preschool population right now across the United States.  Chances are most English-speaking children will meet children who speak other languages in their neighborhoods, schools and childcare.  We can all benefit from fostering attitudes of tolerance and friendship.</p>
<p>Research tells us that all preschool children need to continue learning in their home languages even while they are also ready and able to learn a second language.  My hope is that all young children can learn to make wonderful social and emotional connections regardless of language, culture or ability.</p>
<p>I’ve included a lot of suggestions for helping diverse children communicate in my book, &#8220;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Many-Languages-One-Classroom-Teaching/dp/0876590873/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1262394630&amp;sr=1-1">Many Languages, One Classroom: Teaching Dual and English Language Learners</a>&#8221; (2009, <a href="http://www.gryphonhouse.com/">Gryphon House</a>). Here are some practical strategies that you can use to help young children get along with their diverse friends:</p>
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<li>Be a language learning role model:  Research shows there are cognitive advantages to becoming bilingual.  Even more important, this is a great way to show that you respect and enjoy diversity of languages and cultures and you are willing to give it a try.  Help children get beyond their shyness about trying to pronounce unfamiliar words.  And, above all, learn to properly pronounce every child’s name because it is an extension of their identity!</li>
<li>Narrate children’s play:  This helps bridge the communication gap by giving the English speaking children clues about how they can understand their new friend and by providing new vocabulary and understanding for the English language learner.  You might say, “Oh, Tomika is reaching for the blue play dough.  I think she is making a snake.  Ryan, you want to use some blue play dough too?  Let’s see how we can help Tomika understand how fun it is to share playdough with a friend!”</li>
<li>Teach everyone to use “motherese”: Even preschool-aged children can use these time-tested techniques to build basic language.  Remind all the children to speak slowly, to use gestures, expressions, props and pointing, to emphasize key words, and to be patient as they look for signs their friend has understood their message.</li>
<li>Assign language buddies:  Establishing a buddy system guarantees that every child will have a ready-made friend to start with.  Depending on who is available and what are the language levels and needs of each child, think of different ways to pair children.  You might ask a more experienced bilingual child to partner with a newcomer, or pair a nurturing English-speaker with a child who is just learning the language.  This benefits the newcomer for sure – but think about how terrific it is for the other buddy to be entrusted with such important responsibility!</li>
<li>Prepare adults to foster multilingual friendships:  Sometimes programs or playgroups may have one adult who speaks the other language of the children.  That’s a wonderful thing – but even better if that adult is prepared to include other friends in the play, stories and games.  Every monolingual English child should have the experience of participating in play that is conducted in a language they hardly know.</li>
<li>Try using sign language:  Using American Sign Language (ASL) in the U.S., and other versions in their respective locations, is a fantastic addition to any preschool child’s life.  Many of the signs used by young children really do look like the concept, so they are easy to remember and use.  For example, the sign for ‘drink’ is to hold the hand as if gripping a cup and putting it to the lips.  As long as we depend on using gestures to augment our communication – why not use standard signs as gestures?  Then all the children will be learning the same gestures to clarify communication even if the group has many different languages.  I’ve seen children rush to teach signs to newcomers so they can get to know each other right away.</li>
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<p>I know there’s a lot of talk among advocates and experts about how important it is for American children to learn to communicate with people from different language and cultural background to support our country’s ability to compete in the global marketplace.  Right now, I am most interested in helping young children develop confidence, self-esteem, and the joy of being able to make new friends!</p>
<p><em>Karen Nemeth, Ed.M. is an instructor at Bucks County Community College in Pennsylvania.  She is also a consultant and website developer (<a href="http://www.languagecastle.com">www.languagecastle.com</a>) on supporting dual and English language learners in early childhood education.  She is the author of &#8220;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Many-Languages-One-Classroom-Teaching/dp/0876590873/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1262394630&amp;sr=1-1">Many Languages, One Classroom: Teaching Dual and English Language Learners</a>&#8221; (2009, <a href="http://www.gryphonhouse.com/">Gryphon House</a>).  She is a writer and consulting editor for <a href="http://www.naeyc.org/">NAEYC</a> and is the Early Childhood Special Interest Group co-coordinator on the board of <a href="http://www.njtesol-njbe.org/">NJTESOL-NJBE</a>.</em></p>
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		<title>A Wonderful Letter to Grade 5 Students</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 04 Jan 2010 14:00:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My daughter Gabi has been at school for 5 months now. I finally got around to asking her homeroom teacher whether I could share on mychildfeels.com her wonderful introductory letter she gave students on the first day of class. This is truly a letter worth sharing.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.mychildfeels.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/20100102-j0439484.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-644" title="20100102-j0439484" src="http://www.mychildfeels.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/20100102-j0439484-300x200.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="200" /></a>My daughter Gabi has been at school for 5 months now. I finally got around to asking her homeroom teacher whether I could share a wonderful introductory letter she gave students on the first day of class. This is truly a letter worth sharing.</p>
<p>It is thoughtful on so many levels. It&#8217;s relevant to the children, speaking about TV shows and games that they were all familiar with. It immediately sets the tone of humanness, speaking of a range of feelings. It demonstrates, by example, exactly what will be expected from the children.</p>
<p>In my experience, teachers often will &#8220;talk the talk&#8221; but somehow lose the connection between what they preach and how they act. My daughter is happy in this class. She feels heard, comfortable and motivated. This is thanks to a teacher who understands children and lets them know! This letter defines emotional intelligence. Enjoy!</p>
<blockquote><p><em>Dear Grade Five Students,</em></p>
<p><em>Welcome to grade 5! If you are a little bit nervous about starting a new class, I know how you feel! I am a little bit nervous too.</em></p>
<p><em>When I want to have fun I hang out with my husband, my friends and my daughters. We love to watch &#8220;So You Think You Can Dance,&#8221; play games like Guitar Hero and Rock Band or bike ride. I am looking forward to the new Beatle Rock Band! In the summer I love camping in Algonquin Park, travelling to Pittsburgh to watch my daughter play soccer and going to art shows.</em></p>
<p><em>If you saw me in elementary school, you might think I was a snob. I used to be very, very shy and I would not talk to people until I got to know them. Then, watch out! Once I got to know you, I would talk your ear off! I was always the smallest one in the class but I loved sports and was faster and stronger than anyone.</em></p>
<p><em>I think school should be a place where everyone feels safe and able to learn. School should be a place where students and teachers learn from each other. This year I hope to learn as much from all of you as you learn from me.</em></p>
<p><em>I feel proud when I know I have done my very best work and when I do something to help another person. I really get angry when people are cruel or unkind to others. I think our four class agreements are very important and will help create a &#8216;safe&#8217; learning environment for all of us this year.</em></p>
<p><em>I am looking forward to hearing about each of you! Please write me back.</em></p>
<p><em>Sincerely,</em></p>
<p><em>Mrs. S</em></p></blockquote>
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